Wellness Tool: Seek Extra Support
It can be hard to ask for help. A lot of my dancers feel like asking for help is admitting some kind of weakness or lack of ability.
And yet, getting a little extra support when you need it can be the difference between nailing an upcoming audition and not. Being nervous is normal, but it can also be distracting.
So having someone you know remind you that you're going to do well can mean a lot. And having someone share some quick tips and tools to help you manage your nerves can be just the thing.
Who can you ask for support? The usual suspects, of course: parents, friends, teachers, and also coaches.
The first three may seem obvious, but some dancers don't want to turn to parents or teachers for fear of seeming "not ready" or "too stressed out." Remind your dancer that her/his teachers have been where she/he is now. They should be well-versed in giving pep talks! Sometimes, teachers need a more specific prompt, like, "How did you handle your nerves during auditions? I feel really worried."
As for coaches, this is among my busiest times of year. Auditions can send both parents and dancers into a tailspin. Here are some general tips I have shared with my dancers and parents around auditions:
- Create a Confidence-Boosting Mantra. In case of sudden loss of confidence, it can be helpful to know what you're going to tell yourself (instead of "OMG what am I doing here?") For example for dancers, "I am doing my best. It's enough." And for parents before the audition, "You've gotten into a good summer program every year. You will be great in there."
- Pre-Class Fuel. Being nervous burns calories and you'll need to be fully fueled for your class. Tuck into a tried-and-true snack that you know gives you energy and makes you feel good.
- Make Your Mark. If you know you'll have trouble staying calm, put a little mark on one of your fingers or the palm of your hand (with pen or marker)- tiny enough no one else would notice it, but you will. When you feel nervous or panicked in class, look at that dot. Every time you see it, breathe deeply and say, "I am calm."
Also, here are some more recent posts to my blog that touch on these topics:
Take a look to learn where you might need some support and then...ask for it! People want you to do well - tap into that and ride the wave into your next audition.
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Feeling like you could use some support around your/your dancer's upcoming auditions? Please schedule a Discovery Session with me. We'll jump on the phone right away and see how I can help you feel more prepared.
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