Frustrations are born of expectations
I've been ruminating on this question: where do feelings of frustration originate? Why is it that I can stand in line one day without my blood pressure ticking up, but on another a long line makes me want to jump in front of a bus? Why do I get upset when my team loses? Why do month end results leave a manager shaking her head?
Feeling frustrated is the opposite of what I want. I want to be happy. Where does frustration come from?
It's rooted in expectations. When expectations aren't met, frustration results. That must mean that I should just temper my expectations, right?
"But Greg," the voice says, "we need expectations. Expectations inspire us to perform at a higher level."
Maybe the answer, then, is in expectations and frustration working together. In China, our tour guides pointed out numerous examples of the Yin and the Yang, when two opposite but complimentary forces are needed to give rise to the whole. "You see," says Kevin the guide, "each meal is balanced with protein and vegetable. You need both for good health."
To experience happiness, you need to experience frustration. "If you don't eat your meat, how can you have any pudding?" Maybe that's all it is, and I've known it since seventh grade. Thank you, Pink Floyd.