Yes, I do know, and I hope yours was a happy one. So, guess what - itâ€™s time to work on next yearâ€™s Valentines Day! Iâ€™m not suggesting that you start shopping early for cards and gifts! Instead, that you start â€“ right now â€“ enhancing your relationship with special people in your life. Remember those days in elementary school, when you sent Valentines to your favorite friends and even your teacher? Iâ€™m talking about those kinds of special people who are in your life right now.
Judging from the anxiety I see in my private practice, I believe we are all busier than weâ€™ve ever been, and when weâ€™re busy, itâ€™s easy to take things (and special people) for granted! However, relationships â€“ even long established comfortable ones â€“ need time and attention. How much time do you set aside regularly for special people in your life?
Iâ€™m recommending â€œValentine Eventsâ€ scattered all through the year â€“ special time with those who matter to you. These events donâ€™t need to be expensive and they donâ€™t even have to take a lot of time: meeting a friend for breakfast, taking flowers to a relative, sharing ice cream with grandkids! What is required for a Valentine Event is simply dedicated time, away from television, cell phones, or discussions about problems. Your presence is the present that is necessary.
When we take special people for granted all year, Valentines Day could be just another chore. Valentine Events can bring joy all through the year to those special people â€“ and to us, as well.
Dr. Kendra Brown