The idea of stretching took on a life of its own! I looked it up online and was pleased to find these ideas inherent with stretching:
Capable of change without tearing or breaking
Extending oneself to the fullest in order to reach something
As we pass from one stage of life to the next, itâ€™s understandable that we resist having to move on to a new identity â€“ leaving behind one that no longer fits - something that provided us with a sense of comfort and confidence. We functioned pretty well in it. After a while, it just felt natural!
Then, with the inevitable passage of time, we changed, and those around us changed too. Children grew up, went off to college or work, married and focused on their own adventures. Spouses retired, or became ill or died. The roles and identities we held, associated with careers, ended with retirement.
Trying to hold onto past identities and roles is futile. Yet, many people persist, because the other option â€“ to â€œlet goâ€ and â€œextend oneâ€™s self to the fullestâ€ is a scary notion. Itâ€™s almost as if we fear we might tear or break if we try to change. Unfortunately, as we get older, itâ€™s easy to lose our flexibility.