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Another Option: Stretch or Shrink?

Aging well often seems to me to be making good - yet sometimes difficult – choices between options.  It’s like Yogi Berra said, “When you come to a fork in the road – take it!”  (But which fork, Yogi?  It really makes a difference.) I’ve written recently about choosing health-enhancing options vs deciding to settle down and become a “potted plant.”  Thanks to the readers who quickly responded to those newsletters!
I “encountered” one of these important forks in my journey recently when I attended a weekend workshop in Cocoa Beach with the Florida Society of Clinical Hypnosis. 
I enjoy these workshops, they are always informative, friendly and restful.  Following the workshops, I planned to travel to New Smyrna Beach – an hour north – to stay at a bed and breakfast, kayak, and treat myself to a couple of visits to a wonderful spa.  Sounds great, don’t you agree?

As I was preparing to leave the seminar, however, I was very tempted to call and cancel.  I think it was my mother’s “voice” in my head, urging me to consider just returning home (although my husband was in Kentucky visiting relatives) and just sit – safely – on my front porch, reading a book and resting.  Being safe and resting were frequent admonitions from mom.  

I sat in the parking lot of the hotel for a while – undecided.  I felt a little jittery (not really to the degree I’d call anxiety) when I thought about the New Smyrna option.  It certainly felt safer and less stressful to just go home – to the familiar.  “After all,” some part of me said, “why do you need yet another adventure?  You’ve already had a lovely weekend.  Kayaking could be dangerous.  Driving might be hectic.”  And so on.  An opposing part of me responded, “You champion expanding oneself, not withdrawing from life – you can’t chicken out!”
I headed the car north to New Smyrna – where I had a weekend full of surprises (and it was safe too!).  My first night there, I was treated to dinner by a couple who asked if they could join me because I was eating alone!  When I went to the Marine Discovery Center to kayak, I learned that my guide – Lisa – and I had lots in common.  To my amazement, Lisa and I had written for the same magazine for amateur women golfers.  She said, “Oh my gosh! I knew your name was familiar.  I edited an article you wrote for the magazine.”  We had a great time kayaking, her passion for the environment was refreshing and motivating for me.  Finally, on my last morning at the bed and breakfast, I had a long conversation with another guest who told me of his work with victims of storms.  His stories reminded me that I have so much to be grateful for – not the least of which was a weekend of discovery, fellowship and refreshment.

I came to the “Yogi fork” in the road and I am so thankful that – this time – I chose to stretch, rather than to shrink back into the comfortable, known and safe.
I just have to remember not to STRETCH too much. 
Here I am in my golf cart with my work cut out for me! 
One can overdo this stretching stuff!

Book recommendation from Edie

Our Souls at Night by Alan Kent Haruf

In the familiar setting of Holt, Colorado, home to all of Kent Haruf's inimitable fiction, Addie Moore pays an unexpected visit to a neighbor, Louis Waters. Her husband died years ago, as did his wife, … As Addie and Louis come to know each other better--their pleasures and their difficulties--a beautiful story of second chances unfolds, making Our Souls at Night the perfect final installment to this beloved writer's enduring contribution to American literature.
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October 2016 Newsletter: More About Potted Plants

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