And then, I told them Iâ€™ve come to realize that aging powerfully, with gusto and joy is about something else â€“ IN ADDITION TO â€“ the lists we see in Eavesdropping and other publications. Yes, itâ€™s important and will enhance health and well being if we walk every day. Yes, finding new activities can bring joy to us. Yes, volunteering and helping others can be very fulfilling. But, in order to actually DO the items on the lists, you must first accept and embrace that change is necessary. The old comfortable roles and activities may have to be discarded. As Yogi Berra, the baseball great, used to say, â€œWhen you come to a fork in the road â€“ take it!â€
I reminded the members that Florida is advertised as the golden land of RECREATION. It also needs to be the fertile soil of RE-CREATION. The dynamic that underpins, supports and enables the lists is the acceptance that we must change. Take the left fork of Yogiâ€™s road. Try it. If it isnâ€™t working, try the right fork. Exercise flexibility. Recently, a Mayo physician said to me, â€œKendra â€“ motion is lotion.â€ That is true for the spirit and the psyche as well as the body. Although it might be uncomfortable (even scary) we cannot stop at the forks in the road - as we encounter lifeâ€™s transitions. We can do it. We have, after all, re-created ourselves all of our lives: we stopped being teenagers and took on the personas of young adults; we re-created ourselves as parents; etc.