Encouraging people to evolve and create new opportunities at any age.

Forks in the Road

“When you come to a fork in the road, take it!” 
Yogi Berra
This was the theme of my short talk March 16 at the Stuart Woman’s Club.  They’d asked me to speak about Eavesdropping and how it came to be written.  My presentation was limited to 15 minutes.  Now, that is difficult.  As a Southerner, I relish embroidering communications with many descriptors and references back and forth.  That is what we do in the South. 

So, my challenge was to tell the members about the book’s content, how it came to be, acknowledge the dedication of “the Pages” and the guidance of Pat Austin, who helped me form the fictional format.  In addition, I wanted to give the members at least one or two tidbits of wisdom from our book.

I chose strategies from two chapters:  Remaining Relevant and Building a Village.  I presented key points from those chapters:   how important it is to develop a strong support network (a new village) so that we can spread out our legitimate dependency needs and how we need to try out new activities of all kinds from hobbies to volunteering so that we can remain relevant – to ourselves as well as to others.
And then, I told them I’ve come to realize that aging powerfully, with gusto and joy is about something else – IN ADDITION TO – the lists we see in Eavesdropping and other publications.  Yes, it’s important and will enhance health and well being if we walk every day.  Yes, finding new activities can bring joy to us.  Yes, volunteering and helping others can be very fulfilling.  But, in order to actually DO the items on the lists, you must first accept and embrace that change is necessary.  The old comfortable roles and activities may have to be discarded.   As Yogi Berra, the baseball great, used to say, “When you come to a fork in the road – take it!” 

I reminded the members that Florida is advertised as the golden land of RECREATION.  It also needs to be the fertile soil of RE-CREATION.  The dynamic that underpins, supports and enables the lists is the acceptance that we must change.  Take the left fork of Yogi’s road.  Try it.  If it isn’t working, try the right fork.  Exercise flexibility.  Recently, a Mayo physician said to me, “Kendra – motion is lotion.”  That is true for the spirit and the psyche as well as the body.  Although it might be uncomfortable (even scary) we cannot stop at the forks in the road - as we encounter life’s transitions.  We can do it.  We have, after all, re-created ourselves all of our lives:  we stopped being teenagers and took on the personas of young adults; we re-created ourselves as parents; etc. 

"Habit is a vain and treacherous goddess. She lets nothing disrupt her rule. She smothers one desire after another: the desire to travel, the desire for a better job or a new love. She stops us from living as we would like, because habit prevents us from asking ourselves whether we continue to enjoy doing what we do."
From The Little Paris Bookshop by: Nina George
At the Woman’s Club, I enjoyed talking with women who are actively engaged in re-creating themselves and finding activities that bring them fulfillment.  Their enthusiasm and good humor filled the room.  I  enjoyed my time with them and I was able to adhere to their time structure.  Whew!
In case you live in my neighborhood, you might want to know more about this important organization.  The Woman’s Club was founded in 1913, when the town of Stuart’s population was only 400.  By 2013, the Club celebrated 100 years of community service.  There were almost 100 women in the meeting today.  Please read more about them at  

The GFWC Woman's Club of Stuart is a group of women united by a dedication to community improvement through volunteering, raising funds, and reaching out to others while experiencing lifelong learning and friendships for all members.​

Although there is diversity in the ages, interest, and experiences of our members, we are all united by a common goal to community improvement through volunteer service.

The GFWC Women's Club of Stuart


We heard from our readers- comments on last month's newsletter.....
From D:
"I appreciated your challenge to grow by making choice and not resigning oneself to the circumstances of life. It's sad to think of not growing, giving up, and losing hope as one ages. That's surely not what God intends for his creation. God is about "recreation" and is doing a work in us from start to finish."
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