Encouraging people to evolve and create new opportunities at any age.
As I was driving home, I heard this quote on the radio.  I immediately found it exhilarating and inspiring.  I knew at once that I wanted to write about it this month in the newsletter. Why, you might be asking?  Because I think the concept is vitally important to aging!
I invite you to stop just a minute in your reading and really think about Bryan’s wise caution.
“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice.
It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”

William Jennings Bryan
He said that “destiny” is not a thing to be waited for.  It is not some inevitable outcome that we must grieve and accept.  “Destiny” is, rather, a matter of choice.  Within our circumstances (no matter what they are), we still have choices.  “Destiny” is the accumulation – the result of those choices. 
Aging well, as we know, is challenging.  In addition to the losses we anticipate, there are numerous irritations that we never expected.  Often though, it isn’t the losses my clients mourn.  It is, instead, their lack of passion and joy in their daily lives.  They are stuck – contemplating THEIR FATE – that is, to grow older and encounter loss day by day – an inevitable outcome to be grieved and somehow accepted.
We generally tend to use “fate” and “destiny” interchangeably. Today, I’m emphasizing (and magnifying) powerful and significant differences between them. “Fate” is a preordained course that will occur regardless of your actions or inaction.  We all die eventually – and so “fate” for older people may be primarily associated with death and dying. Contrast this to “Destiny” defined as a course of events where individual choices actively shape the course and direction. Destiny is about living – about active choices that determine how we live each day.  
Research dependably shows that positive thinking, new activities and hobbies, new pursuits and projects (those choices that form “destiny”) are associated with better physical health as well as obvious mental health benefits.  I invite you to read the February issue of Time (titled the Longevity Issue).  In an article titled “It’s the Little Things” Alexandra Sifferlin sites the research showing how one’s mind set about aging affects the experience of aging.  So, change your mind.  Change your destiny!
“Age is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and growth.”
Betty Friedan
Articles and Links-Change the way you think about aging:

We heard from our readers- comments on last month's newsletter.....
Wisdom from Edie:
Maybe you were never intended to schedule.  If it doesn’t fit, don’t force it!!  


Meg talks about about Elizabeth Gilbert ‘s Hummingbirds vs Jackhammers:

"Some people--like her--are jackhammers. They focus intensely on one thing, diving in deeply and tuning out any other pursuit. But others are like hummingbirds, flitting from flower to flower--letting curiosity lead them from one interest to another--and making the world a better place by "pollinating" various interests with their unique contribution. Not everyone is a jackhammer! We need hummingbirds!"

Here’s some links:
Elizabeth Gilbert
Super Soul TV
Huffington Post

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