THE ONLY NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION YOU NEED
Everything online last week told me about different ways to improve myself for 2016. Now, I’m all about a fresh start, but instead of changing yourself, I have a different resolution for you: santosha. Santosha is a Sanskrit word meaning contentment. It’s to recognize that you are enough as you are. We ladies feel the pressure to be all the things. We need to be good at every school subject, be in a certain friend group, maintain a specific body type, and post it all online. Those are just things on the outside trying to make us feel better on the inside. Santosha challenges us to know what you need you already have within yourself.
Contentment is the root of happiness. It’s when you’re at peace with where you’re at that everything comes because you’re open to it.
You take a dance class because it’s fun not because you feel like you need a perfect body. You get excited about a class in school because it’s interesting not because you feel like your identity is in getting an A. You hang out with a certain group of friends because they’re inspiring not because you feel like they’re the only group that will make you happy. Santosha is my New Year’s resolution and here are some tips for embracing it in 2016!
When it Feels like you’re not Enough
Part of feeling like you’re enough is to give yourself the space to recognize where you’re at. Acceptance comes from building a relationship to yourself. Meditation gives you the opportunity to check in with yourself and see where you’re at. Also whenever I’m feeling stuck I remember this Jack Canfield quote: "You won't be given a dream unless you have the capacity to fill it." If you weren’t capable you wouldn’t have the desire.
Stay in Your Lane
Stop comparing. It’s crazy easy to scroll through your feeds and get sucked into a comparison spiral. Santosha is to be at peace. Stop looking at what everyone else is doing. You have your own journey and it’s a waste of time to make yourself feel bad when yours doesn’t look like someone else's. Think about where you compare yourself the most and what sets you off. Now limit your time there or be mindful knowing that it can sometimes be a trap.
Be Grateful for where you at
What would it feel like you to know you didn’t need improvement? To me, it would feel like gratitude. It can be easy to forget about all the awesome things you have going on. Get a notebook and jot down a few little wins everyday. You’ll feel more content before you know it.