HOW TO FIND YOUR ZEN
Last week, I wore my new zenned OUT tee when a stranger told me she loved the shirt, but she was the least zen person ever. “Please, I’m my own kind of zen,” I replied.
Zen doesn’t have to be enlightenment under a Bodhi Tree or serenity in every moment.
My zen looks like dance parties. It’s talking with friends, spending time with my family, and being of service. It’s traveling, eating, and trying new things. Sometimes my zen involves tears. It’s meditative and self-explorative. It’s being energetic and calm. My zen is when I have enough self-love to not judge all the different situations and emotions that come up in my life.
Author Matt Kahn explained acceptance in a way that totally changed my life. Instead of saying, “I accept,” tell yourself that, “It’s okay.” The words, “I accept,” create an energy of forcing. It almost feels like a challenge. I know I never surrender into self-love with the words, “I accept.” The phrase “It’s okay,” gives you permission to just be and feel whatever comes up for you. Emotions are only negative when we judge them that way. What if it was okay to feel sad, overwhelmed, jealous, mad and everything in between? Feelings just make you human. Zen is the moment you say, “It’s okay.”
Who knew a tee shirt could unearth so many feels?