Helping Kids Be Responsible, Happy, and Successful


FINALLY! They’re back in school and we have exactly what you need to help your children get back into the swing of things and make the most out of the school year. However, keep in mind that it’s your children who are going to school—not you. So, they need to step up and do the heavy lifting.

That said, before your children can do their jobs well, you will need to help them access the information and skills they need to be responsible students. That’s where two of my books can help. One is titled, How to Get Good Grades, and the other is titled, How to Do Your Homework and Schoolwork. Both books can be found at


Now that school is back in session, it’s time to give some consideration to a problem that is often overlooked. While most kids love their teachers, some kids don’t. If this should be the case with your child, it’s a good idea to find out why.

Simply not preferring a teacher’s personality or the way the teacher does things can provide a good opportunity for your child to learn how to adapt and get along with people they are having difficulties with. My book, You Can Handle Rude People, can help with this process. Don't get hung up on the title - the content in this book is perfect for navigating personality differences. (NOTE:  I apologize if the word, “Rude” in the title of the book might be off-putting when talking about teachers. No offense is intended. I am merely suggesting the book because its contents can genuinely help kids navigate personality differences.)

However, before you insist that your child abide by the life-is-not-always-easy-so-you-simply-need-to-power-through option, think about how difficult it would be for you to be confined day in and day out to a job in which you are miserable.

The truth is, on rare occasions, problems with a teacher/student relationship can be serious. The biggest challenge is a teacher who has a genuine personality conflict with a child—which has the potential to sabotage a child’s school experience and wreak havoc on the child’s self-esteem. In this case, it’s okay—even advisable—for parents to insist that their child be transferred to another classroom and another teacher who can relate better to the child.

Of course, school administrators do not necessarily welcome changing classroom assignments. Understandably their allegiance is to making things run smoothly for the student body as a whole. However, a parent’s allegiance needs to be dedicated to the individual child as a parent has a responsibility and a right to insure that attending school is a positive rather than a negative experience for the child.

(Note to Teachers: If, after doing everything possible, you fail to resolve a personality conflict with one of your students, do both your student and you a favor by being honest and soliciting your principal’s help in getting the student into a more positive situation.)


I’m not exactly sure when and how the shift in power between students and teachers transpired. However, I believe that the change did not inure to the benefit of the students.

When humans first realized the value of gaining knowledge from a learned person, they hired teachers and, based on the teachers’ success with educating the students, the students would either keep the teachers on or let them go. In other words, students hired their teachers, graded them, and fired them if the teachers did not make a good grade.

But now, grades are all too often used by teachers to bribe, reward or punish their students--which is counterproductive and far from the intended purpose of grades.

My book, How to Get Good Grades, addresses the following important information for kids:

  • The purpose of tests,
  • The purpose of evaluations,
  • What a high grade means,
  • What a low grade means, and
  • What can be done to improve low grades.

In the final analysis, the purpose of grades is to inform students as to what they have learned about particular subjects and what they still need to learn. In this way, grades can be a positive part of every child’s education instead of a source of pressure and anxiety.


Understanding expectations is the first requirement of fulfilling them. This is especially true for children. When children understand why they need to do something they are more likely to do it.

This is why a large portion of my book, How to Do Your Homework and Schoolwork, is devoted to explaining the purpose of schoolwork as well as how schoolwork reflects the variety of ways children learn what they need and want to know.

The book also explains how the following sayings apply to doing schoolwork.

  • Haste makes waste.
  • Anything worth doing is worth doing right.
  • One step at a time.
  • First things first.

For a FREE download of this ebook go to and use the code FINALLY at checkout.


Here’s the most important thing for you to know about your child’s homework: It is not your responsibility. It is your child’s responsibility. This is not to say that you should be completely “hands off” when it comes to your child’s homework. 

Positive parental involvement with homework includes (1) helping the child set up a workspace in which homework can be done and (2) providing the necessary equipment and supplies needed to complete the homework. In addition, it is advisable that parents be available to address any questions or concerns their children might have regarding assignments.

As for your child’s responsibilities, my book, How to Do Your Homework and Schoolwork, elaborates on the following tips for doing homework:

  • Avoid procrastinating.
  • Avoid escaping.
  • Do your homework as soon as you get home from school.
  • Make a game of doing your homework. (Allot a certain amount of time to complete your homework and try to “beat the clock.”)
  • Reward yourself for finishing your homework.
  • When your homework is done, carefully put it away where you will remember to take it to school with you.

Remember, to get a FREE download of the homework/schoolwork ebook go to and use the code FINALLY at checkout.

IN CLOSING – While having kids back in school can provide a welcome break for parents, the out-of-sight-out-of-mind concept does not necessarily apply. Parents are never completely off the hook for the round-the-clock parental vigil that begins the day a child is born. However, one thing that can help lighten the load is the understanding that the responsibility for a child’s life is a shared responsibility with most of the responsibility residing with the child. This is especially true in regard to the child’s success in school.
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