I hope those who celebrated holidays recently enjoyed them and have been virtually connecting with friends and family!
I wanted to share some thoughts on spending more time at home with our families than we are used to.
Do not assume that everyone is in the same place psychologically. Check in with family members. Have family meetings:
- Speak openly with family members about how everyone is managing.
- Create a daily or weekly game plan
- Establish roles including who does what and when, for example who gets the mail, groceries, does cleaning, sets the table, who supervises the children, does homework with them etc.
By having everyone play by the same rules, this helps to stabilize your environment and can provide emotional security.
Check-in on each others' behaviours
- Does everyone do the same thing with respect to hand washing, cleaning/sanitizing surfaces, receiving, packages, etc.?
- Having a plan provides security both physically and emotionally, and establishes control in a time of uncertainty.
Listen to each other!
- We often say we “know” what another family member wants. That may be the case in usual times. These are not usual times.
- Learn to be precise about what you want and need. Check the assumptions you make about others feelings - they may or may not be accurate.
- When speaking to your family members, stop doing other things. Stop multitasking. Put down your phone, stop watching TV and focus. Truly listen.
- Kindness and humour go a long way to diffuse stress and tension.
Thank you all for all your feedback and support during this time and please stay in touch with us!