Letter from the Executive Director - Kim Humphrey
Dear Friends,

It is April of 2019, which means PAL as a non-profit, has just turned four years old. I look back at where we started and see where we are today. I almost cannot believe it. I also realize that we are just scratching the surface in trying to meet the demands of helping families that are in pain.

The email below, received just this week, is a strong reminder of the need for availability of a support system for the family:
“I am reaching out in desperation. I am a mom of two teenage children that have taken
the path of drug abuse. I have no idea of what to do at this point. I have reached
out to the resources in my community and have hit a brick wall every time.”

Our vision is to establish PAL meetings wherever they are needed. That means that we need volunteers who are willing to facilitate those meetings. We are working to identify more people and to provide  support to effectively launch and facilitate a meeting. We feel the next 18-24 months are critical for PAL to build the infrastructure and have sufficient resources to truly make a difference in this drug epidemic that is threatening the health of our entire country.

Recently it was reported that due to the increase in drug overdoses in 2017, a two-fold increase from the previous decade and a five-fold increase since the late 1990’s, this issue was largely responsible for the decrease in the U.S. life expectancy, in a trend not seen since the early 1900’s per the Centers for Disease Control. We have work to do to help turn around these trends and bring hope back to families.

Thank you to everyone who is supporting PAL in any way that you do. We have Arizona Gives Day coming up and information on how you can support PAL, wherever you are, is found in this newsletter. We are looking to expand our Newsletters to a monthly edition to bring you more stories of hope, trends and other important PAL news, so watch for them at the beginning of each month. Our bloggers are back with great insight and we have some information on unfortunately unscrupulous individuals who are taking advantage of those looking to find treatment for their loved ones.

We are also excited to see the PAL Midwestern conference and banquet coming together and it’s only a couple weeks away. I hope to see many of you there and invite you to come up and say “Hi!” I thought I would end my comments with a list of all the locations that have started a meeting in 2019. We continue to pray for loved ones still trapped in their addiction.

God Bless,
Kim Humphrey
Executive Director, PAL 

2019 Meeting starts:
Charlotte,NC; Apex, NC; Forrest City, AR; Louisville, KY; Phoenix, AZ; Austin, TX; Natchitoches, LA; Lexington, KY; Springfield, AL; Harrah, OK; Franklinville, NJ; New Brockton, AL; Palm Harbor, FL; New Whiteland, IN; Poplar Bluff, MO; Golden Valley, AZ; Travis AFB, CA; Bogalusa, LA; Clinton, SC; Annville, PA; Batavia, OH; Ona, WV; Polk City, FL; Walnut Cove, NC; Lebanon, IN; McArthur, OH; Springfield, TN; Little Rock, AR; North Augusta, SC; Tazewell, TN; China, ME
PAL Blog: Transforming Pain
by Ron Paterik
When it comes to addiction or life with an addicted loved one, there is one common denominator… pain! As a result, it eventually boils down to a single central issue: what are you going to do with your pain? Are you going to use the pain to push you to achieve growth and expand as a person? Or will you allow the pain to paralyze you; pushing you into resistance (fighting the same fight over and over) or victimhood (self-pity, blaming, and anger). A profound spiritual truth to consider in this matter is: If we do not transform our pain, we will transmit our pain (thus ensuring that the cycle of destruction will continue.) Transformation moves us through stages of preoccupation with the external problem to an increasing awareness of our inner sources of difficulty. As this occurs, real and lasting change begins to emerge. Below is a brief description of these stages:
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A PAL Parent's Story:
As I remove my co-dependent behavior...

As I remove my co-dependent behaviors… PAL Group is helping me maintain continued growth in my own recovery. Prior to coming to PAL, I had no idea that I needed recovery. Recover from what? I was not the one with the addiction. I always thought that once my loved one was in long-term recovery for his addiction, I would automatically be better. What I know now, is that I do need my own recovery and it takes time and effort. My recovery process involves identifying the unhealthy, codependent behaviors in my life and choosing a different and better way. It is true, that there is a better way for someone like me who was raised in an alcoholic home. Someone who also raised a child with a substance abuse problem can certainly find a better way. PAL is part of my better way.

In my PAL group, there is the reassurance that I am not the only one with these kinds of struggles and am not alone in recovery. I have met others who were brought up in a codependent family and like me, had no clue that it was problematic. It is also true that someone like me can learn new behaviors and apply them. In PAL, I have learned new concepts, such as the difference between care taking and care giving. I have also learned other ways to respond to my addicted loved one. In most cases, addiction exists with the help of a codependent relationship. As I continue to be healthy and remove my codependent behaviors, my loved one’s addiction may be less likely to thrive.

Let us look back on my loved one’s life for a moment. My second child is the loved one struggling with addiction. When I was pregnant with him in 1985, I was diagnosed with an incurable neuromuscular disease. During my treatment and recovery, I was separated from my children for a few weeks. This separation seemed to create some additional anxiety in my then, 13-month-old son. Moving on through his school years, the anxiety issues continued, followed by conflicts with students and teachers. By the age of 15 in 2001, one of his friends shared some prescribed pain medication with my son. He has since told me that he remembers that day well and had an immediate attachment to the feeling that came with taking those pills. His pill problem was brought to light quickly and he was placed in residential treatment.

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Choosing a Rehab...
It doesn't have to be a shot in the dark!

by Jim Kreitler, MS, 
There are many factors to consider when choosing an addiction treatment program for a loved one or ourselves. Is it safe? Are their business practices fair and legitimate? Do they follow sound clinical guidelines in regards to therapy, documentation and confidentiality?
  • Google is not always our friend.
  • Many individuals look for treatment options on the internet. Unfortunately, treatment program websites can make any facility look like paradise.
  • There are also examples of programs paying unscrupulous online marketing companies to redirect searches. For example, if you search for “Integrity Rehab” it might direct you to a page that provides some basic information about that program, but the phone number is to a call center for a completely different company.
  • It is best to consider recommendations from individuals who have personal experience with a program or professionals from a licensed facility referring to other licensed programs.
  • Be careful of any individual or call center that is not an employee of the program itself. Often they are selling the potential patient to the highest bidding program regardless of appropriateness in a practice called “patient brokering.”
There are two criteria that I believe should always be considered. Is the facility properly licensed? Is the facility accredited? While this may not be an iron clad guarantee, it speaks strongly to the professionalism and integrity of a program.
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Tickets are on Sale! - April 13, 2019

PAL Blog: Contrary Action -
Change Brings Change
By Sean, In Recovery
Change Brings Change... When I started this journey of recovery from active addiction, I made a solemn oath to myself that regardless of how much I did not want to put in the effort, I would resolutely take any suggestion people who had come before me, had for me. I wanted to legitimately say that I tried to do whatever it took to maintain a happy, healthy, and clean life. I didn’t always enjoy 12-step meetings. I didn’t think therapy held much water either. I didn’t understand how to be emotionally vulnerable and share my feelings with my peers. I had a great deal of trouble being honest, especially with myself. I was in such a hopeless state of bodily and mental dysfunction though, that I knew drastic measures had to be taken. So I went along with it. This is what we mean when we talk about “rock bottom.”Getting to the point where any option, despite how much we might dislike it, is better than our current situation.

When someone suggested a 30- day treatment program, I gave my consent and was admitted. When my therapist, in said program, suggested a long-term treatment program following the 30-day program, I signed up. When people suggested I go to a 12-step meeting every day, share what I was going through, and get a sponsor, I proceeded to do exactly that. When my sponsor told me to, fearlessly and thoroughly, work the 12-step program – I dove in head first! I was empowered to accomplish all of these things simply because I was a shattered hull of a person. I had nowhere to turn. Subsequently, as a result of all these measures, the quality of my life dramatically improved rapidly.

My worst moment in life, broken, beat down, physically and emotionally sick, led me to my defining moments of spiritual and emotional growth. I can say, without a shadow of a doubt, that the most important factor in all of this was simply willingness to try something different and taking contrary action. The content of what I did, while extremely helpful, was secondary to the act of doing it.
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Join the Us on April 2, 2019

Arizona Gives Day Returns April 2

Join us for 24 hours of giving to benefit Arizona nonprofits,
specifically PAL!

On April 2nd, during one day of online giving, donors will open their hearts 
and wallets to support their favorite Arizona non-profit, PAL!

Due to a generous individual donor - All donations will be MATCHED up to $10,000! 
Your donation can be doubled!!
A $25 give will become $50
$50 will become $100
$100 will become $200 

New numbers from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
show that drug overdoses killed more than 70,000 Americans in 2017,
a record! Overdose deaths are higher than deaths from 
H.I.V., car crashes or gun violence at their peaks. 
Preliminary data for 2018 indicates numbers are increasing!

PAL is a critical part of the solution!

 Funds raised will be used to help PAL expand nationally!

And, you don't have to be an Arizona resident to give!

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