September 2015 

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Identification with Self 

PRS 24 PL 189

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Weekly Topics

P.S. on the August Topic
Separate Lies

Online Process Group Meetings
Registration Link -- Series 4 Sept-Nov

Identification with Self
Excerpts from the Study Guide for PRS 24 PL 189

Film Suggestions

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Daily Review

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Identification with Self
PRS 24 PL 189

Week 1Accepting the Self – As Is
Week 2:  Identifying with the Real Self
Week 3:  The Spiritual Cause of Pain
Week 4:  Three Spheres of Consciousness
Week 5:  Group Dynamics
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P.S. on the August Topic:  Movie Suggestion
for The Forces of Love, Eros, and Ssx PL 44  PRS 17
I record a brief intro to each month's topic on YouTube, usually after the monthly newsletter is published.     Intro:
The edited segment mentioned in the video could not be uploaded because of a copyright infringement claim by Fox Studios (their computer program identified the video within 3 minutes of uploading!). It is a 26 minute edited collage of the 2005 movie 'Separate Lies' with Emily Watson and Tom Wilkinson, which illustrates how Eros and  a wayward (that is, non-conforming) Sex drive can result in each  of the 4 protagonists finding their way to a divine, generous capacity to  love others -- rather than loving in order to 'get' love.

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Identification with Self
PRS 24 & PL 189

Accepting the Self – As Is
For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part… what if our primary relationship needs to be with our selves, as we are, in every moment?

Individuals unconsciously identify with their parents ‑‑ often positively with one and negatively with the other parent.  At times, it is more complicated in that a person may positively and negatively identify with both parents, each in regard to certain aspects of their respective personalities.
As a result of identification with parents, one inevitably identifies with untruthful concepts.  This does not mean that parents are untruthful.  It means that an adult person who does not identify with himself, is in an untruthful state.  He does not identify with himself exclusively by dint of misunderstandings, ignorance and false ideas.  Hence, it follows that he identifies with untruthful concepts.
…even positive identification is undesirable in an adult.  The desirable goal is identification with the self ‑‑ the real, inner self.
Self‑confrontation truly becomes a way of life, not a difficult chore, which becomes as exhilarating as the victories and new found freedom, as the self becomes stronger.
PRS 24
The "I" that is able to make a decision, for instance, to truly face this conflict, to observe its various expressions ‑‑ this is the self with which you may safely identify.  

The spiritual consciousness cannot manifest when the already existing consciousness is not fully put to use in the conduct of one's life
PL 189
Identifying with the Real Self

The human predicament is the non-understanding of what is going on, the blindness with which the individual is involved in the struggle, and his deliberate attempt to perpetuate this blindness.
The road to this goal sometimes seems stony because it often requires the opposite of what this goal is.

Price to be paid:
• give up what one craves for, as long as the soul has not learned the art of flexibility.
•  accept the smaller reality of imperfection, before the larger reality of perfection is accessible.
•  stand frustration, before frustration is no longer necessary
•  accept criticism before there no longer will be any necessity for it
•  cope with difficulties before they will no longer exist
•  accept inevitable unhappiness before there is only happiness. 
Goal to be achieved:
•  being in possession of, or identifying with, the real self
•  no uncertainty
•  self‑liking and self‑trust ‑‑ therefore security
•  a full rich life in which one can cope with any situation that comes along.
•  the discovery of a power at the individual's disposal within the self which can resolve any problem, straighten out any difficulty and fill every hitherto unfulfilled need. 
•  the key to living. 
•  this may sound like utopia, but it is not. The promise is not utopia, but stark reality. 
PRS 24
Accepting limitations as liberators:
“I’m Too Old for This”
“There is a lot that is annoying, and even terrible, about aging. The creakiness of the body; the drifting of the memory; the reprising of personal history ad nauseam, with only yourself to listen.

But there is also something profoundly liberating about aging: an attitude, one that comes hard won. Only when you hit 60 can you begin to say, with great aplomb: “I’m too old for this.”

This line is about to become my personal mantra. I have been rehearsing it vigorously, amazed at how amply I now shrug off annoyances that once would have knocked me off my perch.

A younger woman advised me that “old” may be the wrong word, that I should consider I’m too wise for this, or too smart. But old is the word I want. I’ve earned it.”
I’m Too Old For This by Dominique Browning:
Read the entire article at

What happens when a human being steps on the moon?
The Apollo Moon landings have been called the last optimistic act of the 20th century. Twelve astronauts made this greatest of all journeys, and all were indelibly marked by it.
 In Moondust, journalist Andrew Smith reveals the stories of the nine still living men caught between ‘the gravitational pull of the Moon and the Earth’s collective dreaming’.

Read a description of how a moon walk profoundly changed the lives of 12 men in the weekly email for Week 2. Or, download the full study guide at

The Spiritual Cause of Pain
The shackles and encrustations, removing the self from the real self, are often called sin or evil; they are called, in this era, neurosis.  They both mean the identical thing.  Sin and evil are not self‑existent, but deviations from truth.  They are error, illusion, distortion, misconception, limitation, superstition, preconceived ideas; therefore they are destructive.  So is neurosis.  The result of either sin and evil, or neurosis, must be hopelessness and pain. 
One can also put it this way:  self‑alienation, or lack of contact with the immediacy of the real self, creates hopelessness and pain.


Group Dynamics
Identification not only occurs with specific individuals, such as parents and their substitutes, but with groups, nationalities, political affiliations, causes ‑‑ and even ideas and philosophies.  I say even, because one then no longer obtains identity through another human being, but through abstract concepts and theories. 
Conformism is frequently the need to identify with someone more powerful than the self is experienced.  A rebelling minority group is, on the other hand, not the proof of independence either.  It often indicates the same process we discussed regarding rebellion as such.  Trying too strenuously to prove that something is not, indicates that it exists doubly strong in a hidden layer.  He who proves himself so "free" that he has to make a case out of it, is underneath, as bound as the obvious conformer.  The strenuous non‑conformer conforms to his minority group just as much as he who selects the majority to give him a feeling of reality, identity and security. 
In genuine freedom, no show is necessary, nothing needs to be proven.  There exists a poise and ease that can hardly be imitated or faked ‑‑ at least not in the long run.

Being able to notice one’s self in a greater context:
Developing the Observer Self
            The Observer Self is mentioned only once in the Pathwork lectures. It is described in depth in chapter 3 of Susan Thesenga’s book The Undefended Self. You may download this entire chapter from my website at
Film Suggestions:
Examples on developing psychic ‘peripheral vision’
Flatland (1965 Animated 11 min) An extraordinary example of how difficult it is to explain a new dimension, by having an inhabitant of a two-dimensional world experience the third dimension – and find it impossible to explain the experience to others using current vocabulary and understanding. Edwin Abbott (London 1838-1926) was a writer, theologian and educator. The work for which he is now best known is Flatland. A Romance of Many Dimensions , published anonymously in 1884. The book sells for $1. Director Eric Martin, voice Dudley Moore. (Russian subtitles!) Audio book:
Powers Of Ten (1977 Documentary 10 min) This scientific film essay by Charles And Ray Eames begins with a picture of two picnickers in a park; then the area of each frame one-tenth the size of the one before. After reaching a view of the entire known universe, the camera gradually zooms in until we are viewing the subatomic particles on a man's hand.
Letterbox 5 min documentary: A Turner Classic Movies short on the different in watching via “widescreen” or “Letterboxed” transfers of a film vs. “full screen” or “pan and scan”. An analogy of how greater awareness of spiritual reality can change our perceptions.

The West Wing  Almost every episode of this 7 year series focuses on a search for the truth -- despite any cost to Ego, Pride, Self-Will or Idealized Self Image. Yet even when the intent is to lie, manipulate, or obfuscate, we must still know ourselves and the truth of the situation.  Self-knowledge is presented as absolute necessity for exercising power responsibly, and learning about oneself as a process that never ends. 
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Daily Review PL 28: A Spiritual Practice
It takes practice to distinguish our spiritual selves from our human ego-based personalities, to discern the ‘I within the I’.
We tend to forget how hard it was to learn to walk, talk, and eat with a apoon.  The moment of Aha! can be so pleasurable that it erases all memory of struggle. Yet every child spends hundreds of hours learning the basic elements of being human. Daily Review is a way to invest 5-15 minutes learning more about your self.
Exercise:  Notice where / when / how people are completely oblivious to the needs of others. Drivers / pedestrians who stop or change lanes without any warning or awareness of the effect of their actions. Litterbugs. Cruelty or callousness, in word or deed. 

Over the next 4 weeks, see if you can become aware of where you behave or think in similar ways.. Behaviors that annoy us are usually reflections of our own faults, doubts, and repressed needs. The first step to finding our real self is to be in the Now with who we currently are. And accept that we are not who we aspired to be -- yet!

"The individual often has to learn first to accept the undesirable and relinquish the desirable [i.e., the idealized self image or mask self]  before he can grasp the fact that the undesirable need not be at all." PRS 24

All you need is a ½ page of lined paper per day.  Create 4 columns. At some point, jot down each day these brief notes about each incident (limit:10 per day). Doing this on paper is important in the beginning, as it may take days or weeks to recognize patterns.

1. Two to three words to identify each incident (no details!)
2. What feelings or emotional reactions came up
3The judgments or conclusions you came to at the time

At the end of the week, read through your entries. 

4. Notice any patterns or common denominators. 
5. Using your preferred form of meditation (sitting, walking, or while doing 'mindless' chores) reflect upon your early childhood experiences – what were your parents oblivious to? When have you behaved similarly? 


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