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Pathwork Steps
July 2015 

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In this issue:

Summer Themes

Free Weekly Meetings
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Moving Bak to Saturdays on August 4th!  *****

Film Suggestions:
Poetry as Unthought Thoughts from Dylan Thomas

Some Aspects of Love PRS 16 PL 240

Tool of the Month:
Stages of Love from PL 115

Daily Review

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P.S. on Reason, Will And Emotion Concept
'Feelings are unthought thoughts' PL 14

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Some Aspects of Love PRS 16 PL 240

Week 1:   The Essence of Love: Self Love
Week 2:   Fear of Loving and The Valid Desire to be Loved
Week 3:   The Roles of Reason, Will, and Emotion in Loving
Week 4:   Love in Relationship
 
You may download the full month's study guide from www.janrigsby.com (2015 teleconference page) or from www.pathworksteps.org/teleconferenceschedules.
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Summer Themes

I have taught The Forces of Love, Eros and Sex PL 44 many times, and it will be the topic in August. Yet each one of these elements deserves it's own focus. Having already published several study guides in 2009 and plus video presentations on YouTube covering Eros (as a Soul Movement) and The Spiritual Significance of Sexuality PL 207, I thought to spend some time this month exploring Love. 

What do we mean when we use the word Love? What does it cost us to Love? While Love may be given and received freely, on the Earth Plane it usually includes some tasks -- communication, consideration, co-ordination, co-operation... Love is an active process.  PL 44 describes the work of Love as "revealing the soul as much as possible."

Warm regards, Jan


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Film Suggestions
 
Trailer for a movie about the Poet Dylan Thomas, mirroring the teaching
'Feelings are un-thought thoughts' in PL 14 (see below)
 http://nyti.ms/1dzW5og

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Loving Forgiveness
 
'Facing Fear' tells the story of how a victim of a hate crime -- and the skinhead who nearly beat him to death --  met decades later while both were working for the Museum of Tolerance in Los Angeles. 22 minutes. See  http://www.facingfearmovie.com/ or your local PBS station schedule. Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZP3cZAfLfs
This lis a link to an MP4 copy of the WNET broadcast:
https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/13996037/Facing%20Fear.mp4
Link only valid until July 12th.
Download or copy to your computer to play. 
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Some Aspects of Love

Excerpts from the Study Guide for Online Meetings
 
The Essence of Love: Self Love
 
          If you feel healthy and genuine love, you never compromise your dignity.  Genuine love will always keep its dignity.  You may suffer disappointment, but not undue humiliation.  This love rests in itself; this dignity will create respect, not abasement or misuse.  Healthy love ‑‑ since it is seeing, not blind, strong, not weak ‑‑ will always be true to your inner self just because, by eliminating the little ego, it does not aim at the fulfillment of its selfish desires.  Thus the real love is free from all masochistic or sadistic tendencies; it is healthy and without egocentricity or other unhealthy, personality choking currents. 
World Weariness, Love, Prayer PL 4

          All religions, all philosophies, and all psychology agree that love is the key to everything, to fulfillment, to security, to creative growth.  And yet, love cannot be commanded, nor can it be a commandment.  It is a free, spontaneous soul movement.  The more it is tried, due to conscience and obedience, the less does it succeed.
Where lack of fulfillment exists in a life, it is a sure sign that, somewhere, the soul has not yet learned to love. 
          Love and self‑confidence are inevitably interdependent.  Where love is lacking, the psyche must be confused.  It works in both ways ‑‑ it is equally true to state that where confusion exists, love must be lacking. These disturbed emotions and distorted perceptions form a nucleus, almost like a foreign body.
Love as a Spontaneous Soul Movement of the Inner Self  PL 133
 
            If man cannot love himself in the healthy and right way, he can never love another.  If he does not respect himself, respect for others is impossible.  If he has no understanding for the workings of his psyche, he must lack understanding for others.  If man strains toward others in order to replace his missing self‑love and self‑respect, while confusing this goal with love for them, he can neither gain proper esteem and love for himself, nor for, nor from others.  He has to begin with himself by finding why he does not love, nor respect himself.  What distortions, wrong conclusions, misunderstood commandments, real and false guilts, prohibit a realistic and justified self‑consideration which he will then be capable of extending to others.
Some Aspects of Love PRS16
 
          Self‑love and love for others are intricately connected. You cannot love yourself if you do not love others, and you cannot love others if you do not love yourself.  Conversely, if you hate yourself, you hate others.  Again, you may not be aware of this correlation and of the unconscious process that makes you deny the self‑hate and therefore be in need of hating others.
Some Aspects in the Anatomy of Love PL 240
 
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Fear of Loving and the Valid Desire to be Loved
 
          All truth teachings postulate that love means freedom, peace, life.
The only definition at all useful is to know that anything that furthers unity, inclusion, expansion, union, anything that realizes the benign nature of the universe is love and perpetuates love.  
          Yet man fears the life, the peace, and the freedom of love, and clings to the separating forces in himself of non-love as a saving, protecting device. It is necessary that you put precisely into words, "Here, in this or that respect, I do not love, and I refrain from wanting to love because I am afraid of it." 
Fearlessness to Love PL 146

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The Valid Desire to be Loved PL 69
Excerpt from Worksheet by Dottie Titus
 
          Emotionally, we want to force others to love us.  Yet the only satisfying love is that which is freely given.  If we force others to love us, we know they are weak and weak love doesn’t satisfy.  We long for strong, mature, freely given love.  
 
“You can never experience the free gift of love
as long as the forcing current operates undetected by your consciousness.” PL 69 
 
          The next step is to learn to love.  We cannot have what we are not willing to give.  Love is objectivity, not subjectivity.  Subjectivity means we are focused on what we want.  Objectivity means that we see ourselves and the other fairly.  We are not perfect, and neither are they.  If we want someone to love us despite our imperfections, we must be willing to love others despite their imperfections.  While we cannot be perfectly objective, the more we see where we lack objectivity, the more objective we become.

          As we learn how to receive and give love in a mature way and learn to look at life and ourselves objectively, we are less upset by others’ actions and attitudes.  We are no longer afraid of being rejected or abandoned or not loved.  We come to peace with who we are and who the others are.
 
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The Roles of Reason, Will, and Emotion in Loving
 
          Without will, there can indeed be no life and no growth.  If you wish to fulfill yourself and your potentials, the outer strained will is often a hindrance.  But the inner free will has to be cultivated so as to bring about such fulfillment in an indirect way, as is necessary quite often.  The direct approach is awareness, and this does not come by itself.  It requires your relaxed will.  If will is coupled with moralizing judgment, it turns destructive because truth becomes inaccessible.  If will wishes to go beyond your own tendency to moralize and is focused on what is true rather than on what is right, will produces truth ‑‑ and thereby love.
Too Much Love Giving PL 103
 
          It is obvious that love is a feeling, but it is not so obvious that this feeling must result from an act of will motivated by intelligence.  So love is certainly intelligence.           
          The deeper the understanding of the prevailing circumstances, the farther the vision goes, the more the person is in possession of the truth of the issue, the less will it be possible to experience any veiling of the truth by hate, and the more love must grow.
Some Aspects in the Anatomy of Love PL 240

          When you are in a state of love, you will see differently; you will hear differently; you will taste differently.  Life around you has an altogether different flavor.  You will perceive and experience everything that comes to pass in a very different way.  You will feel and touch differently.
Some Aspects in the Anatomy of Love PL 240
 
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Love in Relationship

         The spiritual idea of marriage is to enable the soul to reveal itself and to be constantly on the search for the other soul, to discover ever and ever new vistas of the other being.  The more this happens, the happier the marriage will be, the firmer and safer it will be rooted, the less danger of an unhappy ending, and the more it fulfills spiritually its purpose.  
          He who is unwilling to take the risk of this great adventure upon himself cannot succeed in the greatest venture humanity knows ‑‑ marriage.
The Forces of Love, Eros and Sex PL 44
 
          No constructive aspect aims exclusively at the self.  In the last analysis, it always includes, reaches towards, and benefits others.  The most important manifestation of love is concern for another's growth of his real self.  This may, or may not, be compatible with outer desires of the giver and the receiver of this love, nor may it necessarily be compatible with outer rules of his environment.
Some Aspects of Love PRS16
 
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Tool of the Month: 
 
Stages of love
from PL 115: Perception, Determination, Love as Aspects of Consciousness
 
          Five ways that we may express love, from the least challenging to the most challenging + most potential for growth: descriptions indicate what 'spiritual nutrients' may be missing if this type of love is the primary channel for learning to love.

1. Love for inanimate objects
           Objects do not oppose. They do not require the complicated mechanism of perceiving the feelings of others.  They do not disapprove or criticize.  They demand a minimum of personal sacrifice or consideration.  Objects will make no demands.
 
2. Love for abstract ideas, principles, art, nature
            The love for one's profession also falls into this category, although not necessarily exclusively. 
            Love for abstract ideas also prevents personal contact and involvement with all accompanying apparent risks and insecurity.  But at least, it moves the mind, the soul, or spirit in some measure.
            It may also require personal contact, confrontation with others of different opinions, involvement with other human beings to some degree, while love for objects may not necessitate this in any but the most rudimentary form. 
 
3. Love for living creatures other than man: plants or animals
            They require a certain amount of sacrifice, consideration, putting aside one's immediate selfish comfort ‑‑ at least, occasionally if the love is active and not merely theoretical. 
            It does not require the risk of rejection; nor the consideration of taking the trouble of pondering what the other's needs are; nor the effort of mutual understanding, of trying to understand, and of making oneself understood.
           
4. Love for mankind as a whole
            This may still relieve a person from intimate personal involvement ‑‑ the most taxing form of love and therefore the most fulfilling one. 
            But it does require effort, thought, the willingness to sacrifice, activity, and many other attitudes that are highly constructive
 
5. Love for individuals in close, intimate relationship
            The fact that you and those you are involved with may often demonstrate this love by very turbulent manifestations does not alter the basic fact one bit. 
            The fact that many manifestations of love have really nothing to do with genuine love, but are manifestations of immature needs and dependency and thus often bring rupture and disharmony, again does not alter the fact that such intercommunication furthers your general development and the capacity for genuine love… the process of growth cannot be measured by the outer harmony.
 
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Daily Review

Exercise: Become aware of feelings of love, in you or in others. Don't edit in advance! Every time you sense a feeling of love, allow that there is a grain of truth -- a grain of real love -- present. Trust your senses in the moment, rather than throwing love away because it is imperfect, immature, or frightened.

All you need is a ½ page of lined paper per day.  Create 4 columns. At some point, jot down each day these brief notes about each incident (limit:10 per day).

1. Two to three words to identify each incident (no details!)
2. What feelings or emotional reactions came up
3The judgments or conclusions you came to at the time

At the end of the week, read through your entries. 

4. Notice any patterns or common denominators. Notice where you (or those you observed)  refused to love by withdrawing, engaged in exchange and called it love, or gave your energy to forms of love that do not require self-revelation or engaging with others (denote 1-5 as in the Stages of Love described in Tools for the Month).
         
5. Using your preferred form of meditation (sitting, walking, or while doing 'mindless' chores) reflect upon your early childhood experiences. What kinds of love did you experience as a child? How were you loved? How did you give love? 
 
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P.S. on Reason, Will, and Emotion Concepts

Feelings = Unthought Thoughts

From PL14 Higher Self, Lower Self, and Mask
 
          You all know that man does not have only a physical body, but also various so‑called subtle bodies.  Each subtle body represents something different.  You all know that man's thoughts have definite spiritual forms, but not only thoughts create such forms, but also feelings. 
 
For a feeling is really nothing else but "unthought thought,"
thought that is not made conscious.

            Although thought creates a different type of form than feeling does, nevertheless, both create such definite and, for us, very substantial forms.  Each subtle body, as well as the physical body, has a so‑called aura.  These thought‑forms or feeling‑forms give their image in the aura, but these images are merely the reflection of their reality.  These forms exist truly, but around or outside the personality, and their images are just reflected in the personal auras.  These forms create the spheres in the spirit world, and according to the intensity of the thoughts or feelings, they are vague and weak or definite, strong, and durable.  In other words, all these forms are more or less fluctuating, changing, and thus you will understand better that everything is in perpetual motion in spirit. PL 14

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