Pathwork has taught me that each and every human being on the planet is here on a divine mission. Our life task is designed to succeed despite our resistance, fear, and pettiness. We can know love, yet be afraid to express it so that it can grow through interaction. Love becomes stronger when challenged, or at least shows where it is weak so that we can support and strengthen it.
A Four-Step Outline for Living
When both inner and outer lives had collapsed in 1992, my very first therapist gave me a jaunty little 4-step process to help me function. She claimed it was a Native American Harmony; my daughter informed me a few weeks ago that itâ€™s a Buddhist teaching. Since truth is universal and eternal, there may be many forms of this teaching. I was mostly grateful that it was short.
1. Show up.
2. Pay attention...
...to what has heart and meaning.
3. Tell the truth...
...without judgement or blame.
4. Stay open to the outcome...
...not attached to it.
I separate some of the points into 2 parts, because in the beginning phases of coming into full consciousness (and becoming aware of the the mess you have made of your life) just showing up can feel overwhelmingly difficult.
These steps are my daily mantra. After 20 years of working with them, I still scan every email for judgement and blame before hitting 'send'. I can attribute almost any disharmony to not following one of these steps.
Techniques, exercises, and examples of new perspectives help us become comfortable.
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2014 topics will be selected from Eva Pierrakos' manuscript The Path to the Real Self (PRS). The 'voice' of Eva is easy to discern in the preface, where she describes the process of developing a relationship with the Pathwork Guide. The surviving 26 chapters seem to have been written by the Guide, and even have Q&A segments like the lectures.
The Path to the Real Self (PRS) encourages a holographic understanding of the Pathwork lectures, bringing an overall perspective to concepts that may be touched upon in 20-30 different lectures. The copyright was part of John Pierrakos' personal estate so the International Pathwork Foundation was unable to sell copies until a few years ago. When I was training to be a Helper, the chapters were made available but were considered 'advanced material'. Yet today, many Pathwork teachings that seemed radically 'new age' in the '60s or 70s have been absorbed into everyday culture. The PRS can deepen our appreciation of the individual lectures by giving them a larger context.
The entire PRS is included on the newest DVD-Rom of all the Pathwork lectures, now $40 at www.pathwork.org.
INITIAL STEPS FOR SELFâ€‘SEARCH
Quotes from Chapter 4 of The Path to the Real Self
By Eva Broch Pierrakos
Self inventory questions, part 2:
When the questions of the first "inventory" are conscientiously and truthfully answered, wherever possible, the following questions are important and helpful. As mentioned before, here, too, not all questions can be answered now, but wherever it has to be shelved, this should be noted. It should be seen that this fact in itself indicates that there may be a problem, a conflict, for, otherwise, awareness and clarity would exist.
The next set of questions is the following:
Do you enjoy the pleasures of life as fully as you sense this may be possible? Or is your experience of them flattened, stale, shallow?
How do you respond to life's hardships? Do you become panicky? Angry? Do you blame others, life or yourself? Or do you try to find the cause of it in your own past and present psychic processes and, until you have full understanding, trying to make the best of the situation, learning from it, accepting what is inevitable at the moment, and changing what can be changed through corrective measures?
How do you react to friction with friends and associates? Do these emotions paralyze you, so that your faculties do not function when you need them and you are flustered, cannot think of the right answers at the time, but hours or days later?
How do you respond to criticism? Do you feel utterly devastated? If a fault or failure is pointed out, or you yourself suspect it, do you feel as though your entire value as a person is annulled? Or is it possible to admit wrongs without losing all selfâ€‘respect and retaining the feeling that you have worth, value and assets?
Is everything either/or? Can you feel that you can be right in one respect, wrong in another â€‘â€‘ and apply the same to others? Because something is bad, do you cease to feel, see and experience the good?
Do you feel undeserving of good things? Do you feel as though some of the fulfillments, listed before, cannot possibly come to you? That you cannot visualize yourself in this situation? Perhaps an inability to enjoy pleasure, in the fullest possible way, has something to do with it. Test it within yourself, probe.
Do you trust yourself to handle difficult situations? The more you do, the less will you live in fear and the more capable you will become of enjoyment.
How do you react to frustration? Does something in you scream like a baby? Are you frantic? Or do you retain a rational and appropriate sense? Does momentary frustration feel as a finality? Or are you capable, if it is necessary, to accept it, adopt to the lack and make the best of the situation, in the realization that it need not be final?
Is it difficult for you to make decisions? Are you too quick and impulsive about them? Or can you never make up your mind? Do you wish some reliable authority would take the responsibility for your decisions, so that you will not have to take a chance, make mistakes?
Do you like to rely on the judgements of others? Is it difficult to form your own opinions? You will find that the more you resent advice, the more you really want it, unknowingly.
Are you capable of loving, of truly unselfish concern for others, or do you confuse selfâ€‘destructive false sacrifice, possessiveness and fearful submission with "true love" and weakness with flexibility? Do you confuse unscrupulous selfishness with strength, assertiveness and healthy selfâ€‘love? Again, you may note how well one has to discern in order to differentiate; how easy it is to pronounce judgement without knowing what goes on within the soul.
To evaluate the reality of a human being â€‘â€‘ oneself and, even more, another person â€‘â€‘ a great deal of insight and understanding, observation and vision are required. Acts, attitudes, behavior patterns must be looked at as a part of the whole personality; they must be evaluated in correlation with other trends, and still undiscovered factors must never be left out of sight, before it can be determined what a person is, what his behavior signifies.
Intuition gives, of course, perfect answers, but before intuition truly comes into play, selfâ€‘knowledge has to exist to a very considerable degree. Readyâ€‘made rules about what is right or wrong are totally unreliable. [Bold and italics added]
The lazy person, who shies away from the trouble of weighing, thinking and discriminating tends to flock to organized religion, which sets rules for his thinking and relieves him of the responsibility to form his own opinions, to inevitably make mistakes and grow from them, to occasionally change his mind, with all its consequences.
The emotionally and spiritually mature person is accountable to his own conscience only. No one else can decide for him. The rules of man's religions often parallel divine reality, but they only become a reality if arrived at through personal experience and the gallant struggle for selfâ€‘responsibility. There are also instances when divine reality leads into quite different channels than the generally approved ones. This may first require courage but, in the end, it will prove the greatest blessing, the only possible way to make life worth living.
The second set of questions clearly points to the spiritual and emotional maturity of a person. There is a correlation between truthful answers of both sets of questions. However, it is premature to consider this. Later on, it will evolve quite naturally out of the work. In the meantime, you have to be reconciled to the fact that preliminary work, preparatory tasks, have to be fulfilled. The mere fact that answers to these questions have been given, wherever possible, and thought about, establishes an inner climate conducive to the work and helps towards a better overall view of the self. Many aspects may appear to you in a new light, may give you food for thought and the dawning of a more accurate understanding of yourself and your life.