Positive Energy 413 -No & Slow
We live in a world of BIGGER, FASTER, and MORE. These words carry energy. These words are powerful and exciting but also have the power to drain our energy. Current technology can leave us feeling constantly "plugged in" and rushing through each day. Like a beast that is running wild and trampling us in the process, we end up feeling overwhelmed and depleted. BIGGER goals, FASTER pace and MORE commitments.
Even in the world of health and fitness, there is more information than ever available both online and off. So far, all of this information hasn't translated into better health for the majority of people who have access to it. It's as if the average person in industrialized lands is suffering from "analysis paralysis". More is not always better. When you are thirsty, a glass of water will serve you better than a firehose....always. There are only a finite number of hours in each day, your attention and energy are also finite. Learning to spend your resources wisely is essential to good physical and mental health.
In a world where you are constantly presented with new health information and tools being marketed everywhere you look, it's important to develop the skill to focus on what matters. The discipline of pushing aside mental clutter can save you from information overload and exhaustion. To avoid being taken on endless detours, you must be able to chart a clear personal path.
Before purchasing another product or powder, perhaps it's time to re-examine your options. Did the last product you purchased make you healthier or happier? Did it live up to your expectations? Did you choose carefully and wisely? What tools do you already have access to and are you making good use of them?
Impulse buying is buying on a sudden whim, there's no thought or planning. Without conscious choice or planning, it's easy for life to slip into "auto-pilot". It takes thought to slow down and be present when making day-to-day decisions. When you slow down, you're able to hear your thoughts and inner wisdom. Planning and working out intelligent strategies for important life decisions becomes natural. You may feel more able to breathe freely and find a dramatic improvement in your mood. You may even start to laugh again.
Some benefits from slowing down and learning to say no include:
Better sleep, less insomnia
Better relationships/ability to listen
Improved brain function
Increased sense of well-being/relaxation
So if you find it's hard to give up the BIGGER, FASTER, MORE addiction.....how about a little reframing?
Use BIGGER blocks of time for accomplishing your daily tasks.
Say "no" FASTER when asked to do something that doesn't align with your values.
Take MORE breaks to rest and restore your energy.
Have fun with this and experiment with what feels right to you. Try the following:
1) Focus on making eye contact with each person you to talk to today. It's easy to neglect eye contact when rushing children out the door or when coming home tired at the end of the day. Aren't your family, friends, and fellow humans worth a little eye contact? Show the people you love how much you care.
2) If you are asked to participate in something you are not interested in and don't feel comfortable saying NO, give yourself space by saying "Let me get back to you." At least you will have time to think instead of giving an automatic "yes" and feeling resentful. With practice, saying no will become easier.
3) Instead of feeling bad at not accomplishing everything on your ridiculously long TO-DO list, take time to congratulate yourself for all that you did accomplish.
4) Pause before giving away your time, energy and money to all that request it. Your resources are finite and precious. They deserve respect and should be spent intelligently.
There's nothing wrong with spending time, energy and money. I invest in information, books, hire coaches/educators and attend workshops regularly. This age of information has been transformative for me and has made my life easier. However, in life, everything is a matter of balance.
This message is intended only to encourage conscious decisions and to remind you that you "are the captain of your own vessel". As the world's pace grows faster, may you continue to embrace your humanity and remember sometimes slow is better. Learning how to create and maintain boundaries is a key factor for good health.
"Those that are most slow in making a promise are the most faithful in the performance of it"
- Jean-Jacques Rousseau
" For fast acting relief .....try slowing down"
- Lily Tomlin, comedian and actor
"When you say 'yes' to others, make sure you are not saying 'no' to yourself" --Paulo Coelho
All the Best,