Love: The Heart of Happiness 

14 February was Valentine’s Day, an internationally well-known day that celebrates love. Regardless of religion, Valentine’s Day is what and how each person makes of it. As a breakthrough from the past where Valentine’s Day was only celebrated between romantic couples, it has since been observed as a significant event and as an opportunity to express love, much more than romantic love; and to appreciate the people in our lives and even ourselves.

As Buddhists, we should always learn to cultivate a loving mind. We should see every single sentient being as ourselves, and thus treat them and love them in the way we would like to be treated and loved. We call this infinitely benevolent, selfless love. 
In Buddhism, love is based on recognising our fundamental interconnectedness and knowing that all beings are like us in wanting and needing happiness and not wanting to suffer; love is impersonal because we do not have to specially do anything to receive it. Love is not based on our looks, wealth or status.

To feel truly loved, we should cultivate wholesome attitudes towards all sentient beings through the Four Immeasurables. These are the four kinds of love taught and encouraged in Buddhist teachings:
  1. Loving-kindness: the capability to offer boundless feelings of happiness to all sentient beings and to love and accept oneself, one’s body and mind, and society.
  2. Compassion: cultivating compassion can help remove and transform the suffering and its causes to all sentient beings.  
  3. Appreciative joy: this is not just about happiness — it is about valuing and appreciating others’ virtues, good qualities, and successes that have brought them happiness. It can be assumed as an antidote to envy and jealousy.
  4. Equanimity: the ability to stay emotionally and mentally calm, even in the face of tremendous pressure or turmoil, and to cultivate a cling-free relationship. Listen and communicate with an open heart and mind — tell the truth and not make any accusations and judgments.
When we cultivate and practise the Four Immeasurables with our loved ones, they will no longer be the only object of our love. Happiness is limitless, radiate our love and you will realise that our selfless love will grow and embrace all other sentient beings, regardless of whether they make us happy or sad. Appreciate the countless compassion and loving-kindness we have been receiving and the joys surrounding us; we will then realise how much goodwill we have been showered with and how special they have been to us in our lives.
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三皈五戒授戒典礼 Threefold Refuge and Five Precepts Ceremony



A) 三皈五戒授戒典礼 (以中文进行)
     Threefold Refuge and Five Precepts Ceremony (Conducted in Mandarin)


地点 Venue:宏船老和尚纪念堂 | 4 楼 | 无相殿
                      Venerable Hong Choon Memorial Hall | Level 4 | Hall of No Form 

日期 Date:2023年3月12日 (星期日)农历二月廿一
                            12 March 2023 (Sunday)              

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彩排时间 Rehearsal Time:12.30pm
授戒典礼时间 Starting Time:1pm

Remarks: Attendance of preparatory class is compulsory for Threefold Refuge & Five Precepts. Participants are encouraged to attend the Buddhist Etiquette Class.

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B)三皈五戒预备班 (以中文授课)
         Threefold Refuge and Five Precepts Preparatory Class (Conducted in Mandarin)

地点 Venue:宏船老和尚纪念堂 | 1楼 | 聚缘坊
                                Venerable Hong Choon Memorial Hall | Level 1 | Ju Yuan Fang

日期 Date:2023年3月11日 (星期六)农历二月二十
                            11 March 2023 (Saturday)

时间 Time:1pm – 3pm


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Q: How do we overcome our anger and cultivate love and compassion?

Just as a militia trains and works together and does not give up until the enemy is conquered, to combat the enemy of our own anger we must develop strong love that wants others to be happy and strong compassion that wants them to be free of suffering. We need to nurture these attitudes conscientiously and deliberately by practising the meditations for cultivating bodhicitta, such as the seven-point instruction of cause and effect, or equalising and exchanging self for others. As our mind gets more familiar with love and compassion, anger cannot arise as easily because our whole attitude towards others has shifted. A mind grounded in loving-kindness and compassion also makes it much easier to subdue any anger that does happen to arise.

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“While the enemy of your own anger is unsubdued, though you conquer external foes, they will only increase. Therefore, with the militia of love and compassion subdue your own mind. This is the practice of Bodhisattvas.”

— Ven. Thubten Chodron
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