Do you think most people are more afraid of success or failure?
Surprisingly, most of us rarely feel comfortable shining brightly—of letting others see our brilliance, our gifts and our unique talents. Why is this?
My coaching team and I regularly meet clients who feel held back in their lives and careers due to insecurities, inadequacies or fears of how others will perceive them.
They often worry that if they speak their minds or score big accomplishments, their friends will say, “Who does she think she is?” They often fear that if they break away from the pack, they will be ostracized in some way. So they stay safe, play small and never really tap into or express their full potential—or personal power, as I like to call it.
When you begin to access and own your power, you align with your life purpose and authentic self. And you express all that you were meant to be.
Many of us jump in and out of, dance around or maybe dip a toe into our “pool of power”—occasionally experiencing a moment of enlightenment but then retreating again to the safety of obscurity.
Standing in your personal power takes time, practice and courage. Here are some ways you can get started:
• Find your voice. When you disagree with what is being presented, do you remain quiet? Speak your mind and express how you really feel.
• Make your self-care a priority. This is one of the best ways to send a message to yourself that you are worthy. Nurture yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally.
• Stop caring what others think. You’ll be working on this your whole life. Imagine who you would be or what you would do if you didn’t care what others thought of you!
• Become comfortable using your masculine and feminine strengths. We all have both. Living powerfully comes from the ability to balance both energies—being assertive vs. receptive, and driving for results vs. letting things unfold. Read more.
• Practice being more direct and more assertive in your communication with others. Notice how people respond to the way you communicate. Do you feel good about how you state your needs and desires and communicate with others?
• Break away from the pack. If you’d rather go for a hike than go see a movie with the gang—listen to your needs. Don’t just go along with what everyone else wants.
• Let your light shine. Most of us are more afraid of our own light than of our own shadow. Let others see your talents and gifts. Don’t hold back.
• Become financially savvy. Creating your own nest egg, managing a household or business budget and developing a financial plan can be empowering and liberating!
• Stop settling. What do you really, really want? Stop settling. The more comfortable you become owning your power, the easier it becomes to connect to your needs and desires.
I challenge you this month to find at least one opportunity where you can be true to yourself and let your light shine. As author Marianne Williamson shares, “when we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.”
Let our coaching team know how we can support you in owning your power and feeling more confident at work, on your career path and as you balance work/life. Call for a free coaching consult or attend an upcoming work/life balance event. We’d love to be a part of your support team!
Let us know how we can support you. Warmly, Renee, Angela and the Career Strategists Coaching Team
P.S. Career Strategists coaches have been trained on our award-winning model and are known for artfully blending inspirational, empowering counsel with high-impact, strategic coaching tactics. Their business and professional backgrounds include training in leadership, emotional intelligence, human resources/recruiting, career planning/management, job search and personal branding and life balance coaching. We are known for our unique ability to blend the inner work and outer work necessary to support you in creating the job, career and life you desire (gift certificates are available for all services and we take credit cards; career coaching is also a tax-deductible expense!).
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Career Management Tip
Negotiating your salary in a tight job market: Everything is negotiable. Remember, your salary is not the only offering on the table. If your starting salary isn't acceptable, you can also explore performance-based bonuses; ask for tuition reimbursement, a flexible work week, a budget to attend professional development seminars, additional vacation time, or the option to telecommute part-time.
Hectic Schedule? Try phone or email coaching
Need quick help preparing for your next annual performance review, an interview, resources for starting a new business, assistance jump starting your job search or creating more balance in your life? Consider setting up a phone or email coaching session. Convenient, personalized and affordable. Clients say phone/email coaching is highly effective and a great way to get laser-feedback on very specific career, small business or work/life balance issues.
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